New Year, Less Pressure

I’m sure that you have scanned over countless blogs or websites featuring “New Year’s” posts that include the typical recap of the writer’s past year and a slew of predictable resolutions for 2016. Am I right? Well, I can happily say that while yes, this post will be about moving into a new year of my life, it will have a slightly different outlook on the typical resolution thing that everyone loves to talk/blog about.

I’ve come to realize that making concrete and/or time-sensitive resolutions has become a motivating but eventually disappointing ritual in many people’s lives. Even though it is meant to give a new hope to those of us who have struggled with various issues in the past, I think that these over-the-top resolutions also bring about feelings of failure, especially concerning weight loss and health. Now if you’re someone who has experienced success from previous New Year’s resolutions, don’t think I’m looking down on your achievements. I am simply saying that it isn’t for me, and I’d instead like to focus on more realistic goals and reflecting on ones that I’d been previously working on. This makes it so that I can work on things that I need to on my own time – no pressure!

Now that I’ve filled you in on my feelings about New Year’s resolutions, here are my reflections on 2015 and a few things that I hope to see happen in my future (not just in 2016).

  • In 2015, I went through a lot of changes. I moved to a different city, left a job, found excitement in a new career path, left friends and then made new friends, got a dog, and on and on and on. In 2016, I want to feel comfortable and settled…for now. I want to be able to relax and focus on enjoying where I am, being young, and having everything that I’m lucky enough to have.
  • In terms of my new career path, I hope to hear some great news soon concerning a big step in this new direction.
  • I also think that some of 2015 was tough on my relationships. Romantic, peer, or familial, every type of relationship is equally important, and I definitely experienced some major ups and downs within each category. For example, I made the decision to leave a place where I had finally become comfortable in a new group of friends and work relationships to come to a new city where I once again had to build brand new relationships. Luckily, I was able to do so fairly quickly, but I will always see room for improvement in all types of my relationships. I would love to become more open and learn how to let my guard down a little more around people in my life. This improvement alone will make a huge difference!
  • One of the biggest areas of improvement that people seek in the coming of a new year is health. More specifically, weight loss. I completely understand the reasoning behind so many people’s weight-oriented resolutions. I‘m a woman, in my 20s, and living in a world that defines people like myself too commonly on weight and appearance alone. However, while we are such a critical society in terms of defining beauty, I DO think that we’ve grown to be more encouraging about overall health and having a positive body image. I am happily confident that I’m in a healthy state, and even though there will always be things that I want to improve on, I at least know that they are things that I don’t need to put a deadline on. Unless you are someone who is in dire need of a health overhaul, then I don’t believe in putting the enormous pressure of a concrete resolution or unrealistic goal on your shoulders. Let it happen organically and results will last.
  • Finally, when thinking of my non-resolution resolutions, I realized that I really wanted to have fun and stop stressing SO MUCH over everything. I want to go snowboarding and hiking, travel to a new place, and see some really awesome concerts. These are just some things I look forward to doing in the future and I know that these things will only improve my life, nothing less!

I hope that all of you have thought about the year ahead and the ways that you can improve your quality of life…without the comparisons to Brad Pitt or Tay Swift. Think about the good things in your life and ways to make them even better. Don’t set yourself up for failure. Also, there is nothing negative about planning for some fun times in your life, right?

Happy 2016 everyone. CHEERS